The last few women that I’ve met didn’t have children.
Coupled with the idea of finding someone to love again, I know that the idea of attaching myself to a kid that isn’t mine is too much.
In some respect my parents’ relationship and not having my dad there full time actually helped me prepare for fatherhood in ways I couldn’t comprehend until I was this age.
As a stepparent, you can serve as a buffer – for both your child and your spouse.
The other thing is when the other parent is actively involved, there may be times where the support system will have slight cracks.
You might have a really fun time with your nephew at Christmas, but this isn't the same as cleaning up vomit at 3 a.m. Planning time for mascara is hard enough; popular culture becomes the Great White Buffalo.
Ask about what she loves about being a mom, ask about what her kids' interests are, admit that you've never seen 3. At least not until you're all functioning as a family unit, which takes time, honesty, and patience, and possibly some therapy.4. Do make her a mixed CD and enjoy watching Netflix together after the kiddos hit the hay. Throw everything you know about scheduling out the window.
Until the mini people are old enough to get their own cereal and turn on the cartoons, there's no such thing as sleeping in.
If you really want to impress everyone, let her sleep while you get the pancakes going and put the coffee on, or take everyone on a doughnut run. She probably doesn't need saving, but she definitely needs a massage.
It’s forever and children deserve that commitment from you.
Dating a single mom and ultimately creating a blended family is extremely challenging too.
For example, if one of the biological parents tends to be a harsher disciplinarian, as a stepparent, you become the family’s glue. One thing I learned in dealing with a single mom is that even when a child isn’t yours, they have a profound effect on who you become as a man.