Now, millennials opt to “hang out” instead of go on traditional dates, and somehow, everything has become more casual.There’s more time spent trying to figure out if someone is worth spending a portion of your life with rather than getting to know them.As love coach Evan Marc Katz shared on his blog, “I personally became exclusive with my wife after a month” because when you know, you know.
But the truth is that when we actually do find someone we’d like to date seriously, everything changes, and just like that it’s time to talk about being exclusive.
Social media and technology have changed the dating game, and even the ways in which we woo have changed.
I’ve been here too many times to mention but I’ve never quite known if there was an unwritten rule for how many dates before relationship talk should make it into conversation.
I’m sure you’re the same so I’ve done a little digging to see what the general feeling is on it.
of 11,000 people worldwide, people decide to go exclusive and stop seeing other people after six dates — which, for many, falls in line with the one- to two-month mark.
They officially declare themselves a couple after nine dates, on average.Even more men say they know after about a couple dates or around the time they first sleep with a woman if they want things to go further. “You either want to spend more time together and get to know one another better, or you don’t, and it doesn’t take a few months to figure that out.” Many men say they just don’t think about having the talk because they just assume after seeing each other for about a month, the talk has become unnecessary and being exclusive is assumed. A study conducted by both Zoosk and Glamour asked 1,000 women and 1,000 men how long they thought you should wait before making things official.Surprisingly, 75% of women thought you should wait at least a few months while 43% of men thought it would only take a couple of good dates. But a Google Consumer Survey conducted by Mic of 3,058 people last February found that the most common timetable for having the exclusive talk was just less than four weeks.Even more surprisingly, 45.2% said they dated their significant other less than a month before becoming exclusive and 28% of respondents said it took them one to two months.If so many people seem to be having the talk quickly, it seems logical that many women spend more time thinking about the talk whereas many men assume the talk is obsolete after about a month, which makes sense considering by that time, a couple has probably been on multiple dates, slept together, and spent a good chunk of time together.On the other hand, if you wait too long to have the conversation, someone could get hurt (like a year later).