Here’s my list of rules for dating a person with bipolar disorder: Again, I don’t think this list is exclusive to dating a person who has bipolar disorder. A person with bipolar disorder wants what any other person does from a romantic relationship.We want intimacy, understanding, and ultimately, love.
There are people in clubs who have similar interests and are also looking for companionship. The secret – and it’s no secret – is finding a way to get outside one’s head and open up to the possibilities that abound all around us.
Opening up is easier said than done for some of us. It lasted for years, and every aspect of life was a chore or nearly impossible.
It’s just a thought, but now I believe my focus should have been on being the right man for someone else. It is paradoxical, but it starts with loving me and spreading that. I give more of me when I take care of my simple daily needs.
I no longer believe in countering negative self-talk with positive affirmations that I find unconvincing.
No person is solely defined by any one particular point, and we with mental illness are not either.
I truly believe in the tried and true formula of finding a mate the old-fashioned way.
Talk about your feelings and not about their disease. If you talk by phone often or send text messages regularly and that suddenly stops, don’t assume the worst. Your date may not be good at expressing what is happening, and they may not desire to. As with other things I’ve written here, ask what you can do to help them feel better. We are just as prone to sadness as anyone in the general population.
Try to keep any discussion centered on your feelings about observed behavior. A person with bipolar disorder needs to eat and so do you. If you want to be extravagant, cook the meal for your date. A low point does not automatically lead to serious depression, which calls for a doctor’s intervention.
When I get back from that trip, I’ll walk straight into my internship. I was traveling too much for job training, and his job schedule keeps him very busy. At the same time, it makes for wonderful dreams of reuniting.
We’ve spoken on the phone a number of times, and we’re still interested in each other. Through the statistics of this blog, I can view how people find me.
There is no magic pill to swallow that will make your perfect match appear, but then that’s true for everyone and not simply those with mental illness.