This doesn’t mean that they’re not shallow (they are), but rather, that they are consistent and reasonable in terms of “rating” women’s looks.
You can’t be too disappointed when you don’t get a reply.
Next, you could say to yourself, “Hmm…if all the other women are writing to the top 5%, that means those men in the 50-90th percentile are comparatively being neglected.” Thus, you’re going to have a lot more success writing to the proverbial “6’s” and “7s” than the “10’s”.
As OKCupid’s blog points out, though, a 3.5 rating doesn’t always mean the same thing.
If every user voted Mary a 3 or a 4, she would be “cute” across the board.
A friend forwarded me an article about looks on the dating site Ok Okay, maybe it didn’t blow my mind, but it did validate everything that I’ve ever said about online dating.
I’m going to do my best to summarize– and explain what you can learn from it. 1) Men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness.
(See OKCupid’s data on the similarities of gay and straight users.) The site lets users rate potential partners by using one to five stars, with five signifying the most attractive.
So if a user receives an average of about three to four stars, her profile would be considered above-average.
Men find most women reasonably attractive but spend their time writing only to the hottest ones. As for how this affects YOUR online dating experience?