As Ken Myers says in , from the late 1930s on, young people knew, down to the percentage point, what their peers throughout the country thought and did.They knew what was "normal." Prior to the 20th century, "normal" was determined within families and local communities, but now a "higher authority," with wide-spread circulation and readership, began to form a national consciousness. With the onset of the sexual revolution the question arose, "Why would a man court and woo a woman when he could gain a chief benefit of marriage, namely sexual gratification, for free with no commitment?Keeping company in the family parlor was replaced by dining and dancing, movies, and "parking." A second cultural force that influenced the older courtship system was the rise of "public advice" literature as well as the rise of an "expert" class of advisers — psychologists, sociologists, statisticians, etc.
Let's be honest, the main reason a woman will date a younger man is because physically it's very appealing. Here are four good reasons to allow yourself to jump into the kiddie pool. They are still climbing in an upward motion and aren't settling into the stereotypes of the men before them. And exercise is incorporated into their daily routines -- unlike an older man who is more set in his ways and more content to grow old just like his father did.
They still have a thirst for life that hasn't been jaded yet. These men are not afraid to tap into their feminine side when it comes to grooming.
They see these women as experienced and knowledgeable in the bedroom -- as if they have mysterious tricks up their sleeves.
Don't forget, as teen boys, usually their fantasies were that of models, movies stars and centerfolds -- many of which were older women. Dating a younger man also makes the woman feel that she has more control of the relationship.
Either they aren't yet comfortable with it or they haven't been able to tap into their resources yet.
As we all know, bad communication in any relationship is a recipe for disaster. The mother figure often comes into play in this kind of relationship.
So one important point to understand right up front (and about which many inside and outside the church are confused) is that we have not moved a dating system into our courtship system.
Since most young adults will marry, the process employed in finding a husband and wife is still considered courtship.
Some younger guys are very needy and are looking to be "mothered" by an older woman. They aren't too concerned with financial stability and future security.
Many times the man will have jealousy issues and are not trusting of the woman. Older women know how fast time goes by and how important having this security is -- especially as we age. When the spark of romance blossoms between two people sometimes age does not matter.
However, an extra layer, what we call "dating," has been added to the process of courting.