There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications – mortgage, kids, career, etc.
"Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R.
Cunningham, Ph D, a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades. We should marry people within two years of our age.
She works out a lot by her own admission (and judging by her track record in this department) and often meets partners at the gym, not the bars.
Winter tells Web MD that she and her co-author interviewed more than 200 couples for their book. Such men (at least the ones interested in older women) are stable and mature. They want a woman who knows who she is." Still, even Winter admits, this may not be for everyone.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.
And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
In Amy Schumer's "Last Fuckable Day" sketch, Sally Field is a punch line.
She's the go-to example of how Hollywood marginalizes women of a certain age.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..