The piece, by investigative journalist Nancy Jo Sales (best-known for her writing on the Bling Ring) opens on a savage vista: a Manhattan bar, where “everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening”.A financial worker tells Sales he hopes to “rack up 100 girls” in bed per year, and has slept with five in the past eight days.At its base, technology is a revolution in logistics, not in psychology or sociology – it gives us better access to the things we already lust after; it doesn't change the nature of the lust itself.
This easiness, David Buss, a psychology professor, tells her, changes the nature of demand: When there is a surplus of women, or a perceived surplus of women, the whole mating system tends to shift towards short-term dating. My initial reaction while reading the opening lines of Sales’ piece was: “Well, it is Manhattan.” Sales’ two main groups of case studies are visitors to a bar in New York’s financial district and college students, neither of which have ever been known for their taste in mature, long-lasting relationships.
This raises the suspicion that dating apps' effect within these communities is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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