I don’t think it’s appropriate to have photos of past relationships on display, but trying to wipe out all of the past and reminders of any previous relationship may also rid a person of the positive lessons learned through those experiences and a part of who they are today.
If your girlfriend is not willing to understand, compromise, or budge on some of her past (problematic) relationships, she may not be placing yours as high a priority as you do.
From what you have shared, I sense your girlfriend wants to hang onto these people because of the history, comfort and enjoyment she finds in them, possibly at the risk of losing you.
QUESTION: Biblically speaking, is it ever ok to be friends with ex-lovers, or keep gifts, mementos, or pictures from past non-marital relationships, if you're headed toward marriage with another person?
I met and love a young lady, who has kept up a verbal relationship with her most recent boyfriend (before me) for most of our relationship.
Kris Swiatocho, the President and Director of The Singles Ministries and From His Ministries.
Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years.
But the fact that she still showcases them, talks and hangs out with these men, tells me she has not really moved from her past into the present (or future) with you.
You are definitely experiencing red flags that God has revealed to you.
I also sense you may be suffering with some trust issues.
If you are seriously heading towards marriage and can’t fully believe in her now, you may need to reevaluate your relationship. Relationships are give and take, never a one-sided proposition, and each must work together to find common ground and understanding. A photo, gift or even a friend from the past has no bearing on a current relationship unless romantic value is placed on them.
I have pictures of trips to Europe and various other vacation places and holidays that I would not be wiling to throw away either.