Letting go and just being friends can be something you just do silently within yourself. What I mean is don’t talk like you’re just friends, but then in your mind plan your wedding day and the love story that led to it.
It doesn’t need to be a talk or event – you just simply decide you’re going to shift your attention onto appreciating him for who he is and the fact that you have someone who you enjoy having in your life. RECOMMENDED QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life? I remember back in high school when I had a devastating crush on my best female friend. Don’t cry and moan to your friends about how it’s not fair and how it shouldn’t be this way. It’s not easy, but if you can’t truly do this, you can kiss your chances of getting out of the friend zone goodbye. So now that you’re just friends and you’re cool with it, it’s time for a personal reinvention. I know some of you in the audience are about to throw something at me and scream, “Why should **I** have to change for him? I’m not changing for anyone, that’s so desperate and lame.” OK, fine. But this article is called “How to Get Out of the Friend Zone” and not “How to Do Everything You’ve Been Doing All Along and Magically Get Different Results.” See my point?
It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup. Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely let’s his guard down. and you know exactly what the other person is thinking.
If you want this guy and want a different result than what you’re getting, it’s clear that you need to change what you’ve been doing.
That may be hard to swallow, but when you think it through it’s pretty clear. However, the fact that you’re reading this tells me that you probably have already tried that or you’ve looked and there’s nobody else who’s impressed you as much as this one guy.
There are some great guys out there that have had their heart broken one to many times.
And by the time they’re in your life, they have a lot of unclaimed baggage that they have yet to resolve.
The reality is that when someone hasn’t healed past hurts and relationship wounds, they really aren’t ready to get into a new relationship.( For much more on this topic, make sure to read my article How Guys Deal With Breakups) Now there have been times where the so-called damaged guy jumps into a relationship seemingly out of the blue after months or even years of lamenting about how “damaged” he is.
This can happen for a few reasons: 1) The new girl he jumps in with completely take him out of that “mode” or “funk” he was caught up in.
The reality of relationships is that for them to move forward, they need to deepen over time.
And part of deepening a relationship is knowing the other person more and more deeply and gaining a fuller understanding of who they are. But the dazzling new Cleopatra that stepped into the picture is a blank canvas – he can paint her up to be anything he wants to imagine that she is in his mind.
For the sake of keeping an already long article as short as it can be, I will I think that quote is a little extreme, but it illustrates an interesting point. It implies that you have a desperate need to have it, like it’s the only possible nourishment for your starving heart. MORE: Why The Guys You Want Don’t Want You I’m going to tell you something shocking. yes, I’m telling you to start opening yourself up to other men. Really put some energy into meeting new men and talking with new guys… Here are a few other pointers on the “art of seduction”: doesn’t go for you, then it simply is not meant to be.