Going from fight to fight is a surefire sign that something has gone horribly wrong at the core of your relationship and neither of you are managing to address it.Maybe you’re unwilling to admit that you were wrong.
But then reality sets back in when those promised changes never happen. Whether you can’t or won’t address the underlying problems, the best thing for both of you is to make a clean break of it.
discussion about the matter, possibly even a full-blown fight with all the awkwardness and emotional distress that entails… Maybe they’re trying to keep control in the most passive-aggressive way possible. Many people linger in broken or flatlining relationships because they’re looking for something they can point to as a reason to leave.
But there are the occasional flare-ups that are part of every relationship and then there are the relationships where those moments of quiet aren’t tranquility, it’s the calm before the storm.
When your relationship has become a never-ending string of arguments, grievances and all-out , then you’re looking at a relationship that’s gone past it’s expiration date.
want or need or open up about how you actually feel, then your relationship is functionally over.
It doesn’t matter if you feel like it’s something you’re not “allowed” to want or if you’re afraid that if you ask, the answer will be “no”.
They’ve planted themselves like a tree and said “no, now with you that things need to change.
They go through all the motions and say all the right words, and for a moment, you feel like maybe you’ve reached a breakthrough.
Of course, not all conflicts in relationships look like fights.
Sometimes those conflicts are the absence of progress, where no matter what you do, But no matter whether you’re calm and rational, heated and emotional or anywhere in between, it doesn’t make a difference.
When everybody is talking but nobody’s actually connecting, you’ve got problems.