Violent words and actions are tools an abusive partner uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner.
Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
And, depending on what style of abuser he is, she may know that he will become dangerous when she tries to leave him. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prision.
She may even be concerned that he will try to take her children away from her, as some abusers do.” ― Lundy Bancroft, tags: abuse, abused-women, abuser, abusive-men, abusive-partner, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, abusive-relationships, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, mental-abuse, physical-abuse, psychological-abuse, psychology “I am living in hell from one day to the next. I entered of my own free will, I locked the door, and I threw away the key.” ― Haruki Murakami “It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt.
Dating Matters supports prevention strategies in schools and neighborhoods and with families, using comprehensive, evidence-based and evidence-informed practices to reduce the burden of teen dating violence.
Communicating, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect keep relationships healthy and nonviolent.
Dating abuse (also known as dating violence, intimate partner violence, or relationship abuse) is a pattern of abusive behaviors -- usually a series of abusive behaviors over a course of time -- used to exert power and control over a dating partner.
Every relationship is different, but the things that unhealthy and abusive relationships have in common are issues of power and control.
Dating violence can happen to teens in a romantic or sexual relationship anytime, anywhere. A healthy relationship is built on respect and is free of violence.
Teen dating violence is the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence in a dating relationship, including stalking.
A real man doesn't slap even a ten-dollar hooker around, if he's got any self respect, much less hurt his own woman. A real man busts his ass to feed his family, fights for them if he has to, dies for them if he has to.