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This is the exact same observation I make in Finding the One Online.
Namely, that if you look at a typical 40 year old man’s search preferences, it will generally read 27-35.
And while women will write 35-45, they will almost always prefer a man her age or younger.
There are WAY too many exceptions to this for us to fight about, so please, let’s not.
It seems that the under-6-ft guys are definitely adding several inches to their height. 6) So men with average to sub-par looks aren’t listing their income, which could potentially offset their lack of looks or age, are sending me generic cut & paste intro messages, which shows me they really didn’t bother reading my profile. They need to know their league and/or up their online game if they want to play out of their league.
7) Now, OTOH, the few good-looking men my age whom I find attractive aren’t finding me attractive, possibly because of my age and more likely because THEY are looking to date attractive women in their 20’s and 30’s, because they can.
And if you look at a typical 40 year old woman’s search preferences, it’ll generally read 35-45.
However, men’s preferences are shaped not just by looks but by fertility, which is why many have 35 as a cutoff.
A piece in Time Magazine cites numbers from the Are You Interested Facebook app that concludes that, among 35,942 users ages 30 to 49, a woman was five times more likely to show interest in a man who was five years her junior, rather than one who was five years older.
Similarly, among 26,434 men ages 30 to 49, 42% wouldn’t even consider a woman if she was older than him.
However, if contacted by an older woman, men wouldn’t necessarily turn her down.