Online dating is a bit of a ‘necessary evil’ I feel. At times I let this sadden me but, by and large, I use it as an example that there is truly someone for everyone. Fast track or not, I’m apparently as confused as ever …………. I never activated my ‘Our Time’ profile, so that doesn’t count.
Along with the whole appeal and mystery of making your decision based solely on a photo, is the whole mystery of who will actually show up. I spotted him right away when he walked into the bar to meet me. He thinks that there are FAR more single men than women in my current town.
He says he hasn’t gotten many messages and even fewer responses to his messages. He’s not a bad looking man, so could the decks be stacked just that far in women’s favor?
I do things that I like without the thought of ‘I hope I meet a guy doing this’. Plenty of Fish provided NYE date and several unsuitable dates. I did remember another phone based dating app called ‘Coffee Meets Bagel’ that I downloaded last weekend and which has provided me with 2 matches so far.
I’m still on the fence as to whether it’s a hookup site or not. Sadly, yes, but it happens very rarely as I usually swing towards the other end of the spectrum and don’t feel a connection with most. So here are the facts: She’s on one site and has had met 1 man this year.
If by ‘job’ I mean a low paying, time consuming, frustrating and disappointing way to spend my time. Only, let’s be honest, I was more jovial, conversational and a hell of a lot less awkward than most of them were. Well, actually 2, but you all don’t know about the other one. It just didn’t register as quickly because I didn’t make a complete fool out of myself with him. A man that I have wanted to ask me out for over a week. I’m allowing myself that….can’t end well 😉 He truly was. He is a very kind man who has had women take advantage of him in the past. I’ve had several long term relationships in my life.
With a man that I have been messaging with for 2 weeks, which I normally won’t do.
Tinder is kinda weird in that it’s all photo based. Who knows how many times I’ve been left or right swiped.
Kinda weird in that the men may, usually not, write a tiny blurb about themselves. Unlike the soul crushing feature of Match that shows you exactly how many times your profile has been looked at (and subsequently passed over), Tinder doesn’t.
So here's my guide to the goods and bads of online dating.
PROSThey're all single - Yes, until pubs require you to wear a special badge announcing your status, there's always a chance that when you pull au naturel, you'll spend half an hour chatting up someone who turns out to already have a girlfriend and has just been polite/obtuse/rolling around in the massive ego boost of it all. You have tons of choice - Yes, no more once overs of the club, crossing your fingers for someone even adequately attractive to consider having a snog with, or face the more principled but smoochless exit alone. You can afford to be fussy - When you're limited to pulling one of the 100 or so guys in a pub, not all of whom are actually single, or might not actually fancy you (the idiots), you can end up lowering your standards somewhat (I think this is why pubs supply alcohol).
And reassuringly, I'm far from alone - with new stats showing a fairly sizeable third of UK couples now meeting online. But for those of you who haven't tried it - what's it really like to date online?