My mistake was that instead of trusting myself, I clung to an ideal of whom I thought I be with—the man I had known longer. Fortunately, I was forgiven by the man who mattered the most to me.
The women I spoke to all agreed that the right choice isn’t necessarily the man who gives the most compliments or matches a checklist or even the guy you’ve known longer.
When you finally make a choice, break it off with the other guy without a huge, drawn-out explanation.
After several months, her ex-boyfriend of five years found out, and begged that she come back and promised that he now wanted to get married. The man she had only started dating a few months ago had already demonstrated far more reliability and dependability than the other guy had shown in five years.
When I had to choose between the longtime friend and the handsome stranger, I chose wrong.
2, just say you hung out with a friend and change the subject. When that happens, sit down and think about who makes you feel the most secure in their feelings for you, and who seems to be on the same page as you.
If one guy clearly comes out on top, well, there's your answer.
Posting pics of your cool weekend date on Facebook is great and all…until the other guy you're dating sees the evidence that he's not the only one in your life. It's best to lay low online until you've settled on one dude.
Also: Set a filter on your Facebook page so that you have to approve photo tags.
So don't tell either guy where you are all the time.
If they're clued in to what you're doing 24/7, it's going to be harder for you to have the space you need to decide on one.
As Meghan shares, “I just knew he was a risk I’d have to take.”“Trust is the glue of life,” writes Stephen Covey, author of the bestselling book “It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication.
It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” I have found this wisdom to be true in the workplace, when buying cars, and even when writing relationship articles—and it was certainly true among the women who were deciding which man to date. but I basically asked [my ex-boyfriend] point-blank if any of the issues we had previously would be gone, and he said he couldn’t guarantee it, so I decided [that it was] better to try something new than go back to what I had already done before.” Turns out that she made the right decision.
It was as if she had won the lottery, She wisely kept the ensuing dates light and casual, expecting that as time went on, it would become clear which guy was for real. Instead, she found that were for real, and she felt herself becoming closer to both of them.