Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough Just as important as assessing the recovering addict’s status is understanding your own. Does addiction strike a nerve with you, perhaps because there’s an addict in your family?Although research has refuted outdated assumptions about addiction, surveys have shown that people judge addicts (even recovering ones) more harshly than people struggling with obesity, depression and even schizophrenia.
It isn’t your job to safeguard their sobriety, and someone firmly grounded in recovery won’t expect you to, but as a member of their support network you’ll need to encourage them to prioritize their recovery, sometimes even over you.
You also need to assess how much baggage you can handle. They may have accrued debts, a criminal record or legal problems, or irrevocably damaged key relationships in their lives that make your interactions with their family and friends tenuous.
He's tried and failed over the past year to clean up on his own, and has checked himself into a 5-month rehab program (inpatient except on weekends) that does non stop therapy, alternative therapies, and exercise. I admire him for that and we have a good laugh and seen good together.
I was hoping that after the program we could slowly start to date. The question is, I am on anti-depressants for when I was being bully at work.
Recovering addicts don’t expect perfection in their partners, having learned firsthand that it doesn’t exist.
And they have committed – in recovery and in life – to honesty and integrity and making decisions in accordance with their values.If you believe addiction is a sign of weakness or a character flaw, dating a recovering addict probably isn’t for you.Sometimes if your alarm bells are ringing, there is good reason.After evaluating all of the pros and cons, the real question isn’t whether you should date a recovering addict, but whether the person has the qualities you want in a romantic partner.In the end, it’s a very personal decision that you have to make: Is dating a recovering addict a deal-breaker for you? My partner and I are both recovering addicts-- we've been together for years now.I am worried that he's not stable enough, though, and that the relationship won't stand a chance until he's really back on his feet (including finding a new job). I get the time has passed but your situation is interesting. One year sobriety in my book is strongly recommended. I mentioned this one evening as we were discussion his issues and recovery.